How to Prevent Falling Out of Love

How to Prevent Falling Out of Love



  You hear people talking about 'falling in love' and 'falling out of love'. What does it mean to fall out of love with somebody? Falling out of love is basically when somebody’s feelings of love and excitement for their partner no longer exist, or has faded away. You don’t feel or react to your partner the same way you used to. If you can fall in love, then its possible to fall out of love too. More often than not, love is lost in a relationship. It happens all the time. Just about everyone can think of at least one person they know or have heard of, that has been in a relationship where love was slowly been lost over time. Sometimes people choose to continue the loveless relationship because of their own helplessness. Some reasons why people feel helpless can be because of financial dependency, children, society, religion, etc. While some people try to revive or rekindle the love and passion in their relationship, other people decide to break free of the relationship because they don’t want to live a life of pretense, live a lie, or be untrue to themselves. Falling out of love can happen when one person or both partners have changed feelings for the other. Its actually kinda natural that attraction between people may fade over time. However, if you can notice warning signs early on, you just might be able to prevent it from happening. How can you tell that you have fallen out of love with your Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Spouse? Here’s a few signs letting you know that your relationship might be in trouble.



1. Meeting up with your partner no longer excites you: Spending time alone with your partner or going on vacation with them no longer excites you. You no longer look forward to going on dates with your boyfriend/girlfriend. You would rather spend time with your friends instead of being near your significant other. You might start canceling dates because your heart just isn’t that into it anymore. If you were still in love with your partner, you would certainly make time for them, just like you did when you were first dating.* If you’d rather text message than meet up or talk on the phone with your partner, you might have already started to fall out of love with that person.

* The frequency of your dates now, in comparison to when you were first dating might be less often, and that’s natural. You just gotta keep making time and making an effort. Its when you lose the motivation to set a date...

2. You cringe at the thought of Intimacy: Feelings of emotional detachment towards your partner is a sure sign that you have fallen out of love with him or her. When you feel mentally and emotionally distant from your partner, its natural that you might want to be physically distant too. Your physical intimacy may be just plain physical, without an emotional connection or chemistry, kind of just going through the motions. You might feel uncomfortable when your lover publicly displays their affection to you. You might feel yourself pulling away when they try to kiss your cheek or hug you in public, when used to not be that way.

3. You are okay with Cheating: You might suddenly start taking an interest in other people. When you no longer find excitement in your partner, chances are that you are ready to look for excitement elsewhere. You probably wont mind flirting with others or even crossing boundaries behind your partner’s back. You’ll start imagining yourself being with somebody else, and you might like the thought of it.

4. Your priorities have changed: You are more interested in spending time with your buddies/girlfriends or do other stuff rather than being with your boyfriend or girlfriend. You might even find yourself avoiding time alone with your significant other, and going out of your way to make other plans.

5. You want to be single and “free”: When you are in love, you would want others to know that you are a couple. You are proud of your relationship and of your lover, and you feel lucky to even be in a relationship. When you have started the process of falling out of love, you might find yourself missing the “single life”. You might find yourself feeling trapped in a life you no longer want. You might start wishing you could be single again and “free”, completely forgetting the things that made you feel miserable when you were single.+

6. You do not care: You may not hate your partner, but you may find yourself not caring about them anymore, at all. You are no longer interested in anything that is going on with your relationship. You don't even feel that you need to make an effort to mend the situation. You really don’t even care if the relationship ends one day. Nothing about your partner matters to you anymore. You may have even lost respect for your Partner and may not consider them worthy enough to value their opinions.

7. You are overly critical about your partner: You constantly find faults with your Partner. You feel embarrassed or irritated by your partner. The traits you used to like about your guy/girl, no longer impress you. You pick fights, because of silly reasons. Those actions could also be because you don’t have the guts to break up with your partner, but hope that you can force him/her to do it first.


8. She/he is your backup plan: You hope to keep him/her with you until you find a better person to be with. The only reason you might still be in the relationship is because of helplessness or convenience. In case you never find anyone “better”, you know that he/she will also be an option.*

*Remember, that no one likes to be a second choice and that you are being unfair to them by doing so. If you think that way, you have already given up on them.



  In some cases, you may be able to rekindle the relationship by working on your weaknesses. If there is no hope, it is best to call quits and move on with life. Remember, there is always still hope if both parties continue to sincerely* try. Most of the time, before any of the above signs happen, you will usually get little mini-warnings in your own mind. Intuitions are rarely wrong, and are obvious, you usually have to go out of your way to ignore them. Don’t let people tell you its enevitable, that falling out of love WILL happen, and you should just stick with it, and force yourself to live in a miserable existance, just beacuase you made a promise when first married. There are ways to prevent this from happening. If you do fall out of love, you can bring those good feelings back, but you both have to try. If its only one person trying, and your partner refuses to put any effort, and much of your own efforts to rekindle those small fires aren’t working or are being ignored, then you just might have to call it quits.
This blog is strictly opinion, and completely open to suggestions. I hope this might help someone. -wrb